When you don’t know WHAT to pray! What helps me through the common struggle.

“God’s plan for you is to move you into a position of impact by infusing you with truth, and employing you in prayer.”

Priscilla Shirer- from her book Fervent

In this blog post today, I just want to share something that I probably came up with during a time when my prayer life was running dry. As much as they say PRAYER should be like a conversation with God, this has helped me have a back-up plan when the going gets tough in prayer, as it often does. See what this is further down.

May I greet you afresh in this new year? HELLO WORLD 🙂

If you haven’t noticed yet, the theme for this YEAR is #PursueYOU! And in this pursuit of who we truly are, what our purposes are, and as we gear up to step into the journey of destiny or continue in the journey for some, my wish is to remind all of us, INCLUDING MYSELF, that one of the foundational steps in gearing up is PRAYER.

So as we embark on the rest of this year, I really wish to remind myself as much I wish to remind you, that PRAYER IS IMPORTANT, AND PRAYER WORKS! Prayer changes our hearts, our lives, changes perspectives, changes the game!

Prayer changes the game!

Dineo Sefoloko

It’s easy to be filled with enthusiasm and zeal at the beginning of the year as we all aspire and dream to achieve certain things. But as our zeal waxes and wanes and as certain things don’t go our way, it can be easy to lose sight of the importance of “praying without ceasing”(1 Thess 5:17) and quite frankly, sometimes I find I don’t even know what to pray about anymore. Or I’m so tired of praying about THE SAME thing I’m trusting for that I just end up getting weary. Whatever the cause, THE STRUGGLE TO PRAY IS REAL! BUT SO IS JESUS!

They say it’s supposed to be like having a conversation with God. But sometimes I find it’s just NOT that simple, right? Here’s something that I drew up years back that I find really brings structure to my prayer life when the fire and passion to pray dries out sometimes.

One of my friends years ago when I asked him how to pray when I don’t feel like it said “Think of prayer like medicine. You most often don’t want to take medicine, but when you are sick and you really want to get well, you force yourself to take the medicine anyway, because you know that’s the only way you’ll get better. It’s for your own good.” So this, is my medicine or my personal cure to the struggle to pray.


Written about 3 year snack to date, but still relevant to me even today.

As you can see, it’s simply a day by day of the week plan. In addition to praying for myself, I thought about some of the things that I need to pray for, OTHER THAN MY OWN NEEDS. You can get creative and personal about what you want to pray for and when or how.

Here’s how having this prayer schedule has helped me when I’m struggling:

  • It brings structure to my prayer week and helps me cultivate GRATITUDE FIRST. When we cultivate gratitude and thanksgiving, I find it becomes easier to TRUST that what we’re praying for will also come to pass.
  • It helps remove the focus off of me sometimes. As I reflect more and more, I realize that one of the reasons why we get weary is because we don’t see immediate answers to our prayers, or we are so focused on our OWN needs and requests that we fail to see the Faithfulness of God in others’ lives or circumstances/situations. But actually, the more I see God working in the lives of others and answering their prayers, is the more my faith increases!
  • It helps me keep and want to be aware of the happenings in and around me. Recently, if I’m being honest, I haven’t been good with this. But knowing that I’m going to be praying for my friends, the church, the world, makes me want to know what is happening in the world, in my friends’ and family’s lives.
  • It gives me perspective and helps me keep the bigger picture in mind. Your problems are the biggest and the worst until you start praying about other things and for other people and you realize, actually, your problems may be but a drop in the sea, as big as they are to you. Or you realize, you’re not alone. We are all in the same struggle, same battlefield.

Those are but a few pointers. So would I suggest making something like this of your own? Definitely.

Below I have taken pictures( VERY OLD RESOURCE, PLEASE EXCUSE ME) of something I found in my archives, that teaches further about the Lord’s Prayer as we read it in the Word. It elaborates on how we can use the OUR FATHER as a template for prayer- such that we don’t just recite the words, but we bring personal meaning to the prayer by inserting our PERSONAL adoration, reverence, requests, thanksgiving, resolve and trust In God for our prayers. Grateful for JUBILEE Church in Cape Town for this resource. I hope it helps!

Below is a personal recommendation to read, especially designed by a woman, for women! A beautiful read that will help EQUIP you regarding PRAYER, teach you about the powerful weapon that it is, and really teaches about some of the important things we need to be praying for as women. A BATTLE PLAN indeed! Please give it a read. It will also be helpful in some pointer to pray about as you make your schedule.

What do you guys think about making a prayer schedule? Does it take away from the essence of prayer? Is it something that you would find helpful/useful?

And remember, you can have that conversation we call prayer, with God ANYWHERE, ANYTIME! With that said I leave you with this verse.

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.”

Romans 8:26

Please leave some comments below. 🙂

Take care as you #PursueYOU.

All my love

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